Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Not So Pricey Designs

I received a BCBGMAXAZARIA Spring 2010 Collection catalog in the mail this week and was surprised to discover a selection of dresses for under $150. Actually, I was shocked. The designer was also offering plenty of garments and accessories in the $300-$500 range, much of which was strapless or plunging to the navel and hemmed around the upper thigh. But there were some reasonably priced, original designs suitable for the over 50 figure. Is the designer responding to our dismal economic situation or has it always offered less pricey designs?

Case in point: Front Twisted Printed Dress for $148.00
What’s great about this dress: Boat neck, gathered above the waistline, draped over the tummy, and roomy around the hips and thighs.

The BCBGMAXAZARIA catalog got me wondering: Are other well-known designers—ones that I thought were untouchable on my budget—showing clothing for under $150? Well, an initial web search has revealed that most designers are still selling their wares at astronomical prices. However, there are a few designers and reputable labels that are offering garments at relatively modest prices.
Asymmetric Zip Trench

Asymmetric Zip Trench


For example...
Ralph Lauren has the “Lauren” line, which offers nicely made garments at reasonable prices. In addition, the designer's website has lots things on sale, including fun jackets to perk up any outfit. I like the Eleanor Stretch Denim Jacket on sale for $99 and the Quintanna Cotton Jacket on sale for $124.99.

Calvin Klein has a section called Great Finds for Under $50. This section includes a trendy camp shirt and graphic Ts as well as the man's signature jeans.

Tommy Hilfiger has a range of prices for tops, bottoms, dresses and jackets as well as an “Under $100” category.

Anne Klein has lots of fun jackets and outerwear on sale. I've included a few examples (pictured above and below). AK has taken classic styles, like the trench and blazer, and added an asymmetric zipper or big buttons. The jackets are stylish and very feminine--perfect for women over 50. Below is a sampling. Yes, the models are mere babes, so you'll have to use your imagination.
3/4 Sleeve Button Front Jacket

3/4 Sleeve Button Front Jacket


Linen Blazer

Linen Blazer


Linen Asymmetrical Wrap Jacket

Linen Asymmetrical Wrap Jacket

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Over 50 Online Dating

In my last post, I shared some style tips for dating after 50 gathered from single, 50+ women. In the process of getting those tips, my dating friends offered some advice on using online dating sites. Here are those tips as well as a few more fashions for the over 50 woman getting together with someone she's met online for the first time. Whether you choose something more dressy, like the clothing in my previous post, or a casual top like the ones shown below will, of course, depend on your personal style.

When it comes to dating over 50, the important thing is to keep a positive attitude. According to US Census Bureau, almost 40% of Americans who are 45 or older are single. No doubt, the group consists of more women than men. Still, it’s encouraging. You are not alone out there!Organic Cotton Shirt

Organic Cotton Shirt


How exactly are you supposed to find all these 45 and older men? Unless you’re in a retirement community already or one of those restricted "55 or older" condomium community, you’re unlikely to find a large pool of people the same age. I’ve known women who’ve held out for that miracle meet at work or through a social connection, night class, volunteer work or, perhaps, at the gym. By and large, they haven’t found anyone. If you’re a 50+ woman who’s left the workplace to raise kids, you might not even have a job. Volunteer work might put 60+ woman in touch with civic-minded, retired 70 year olds, but most of my 50ish friends want someone a little younger—if possible. And do over 50 women feel flirty in their sweaty exercise togs at the gym? I can't imagine it.

That leaves online dating. At last count, I saw about 20 online dating websites. Interestingly, half of the sites were directed towards dating for men and women over 50. Everyone I talked to has a different opinion on which is the best. Fortunately, online dating services tend to offer free trials, so you can see which one suits your needs.

I’ve interspersed a few tops for the first "face-to-face" meeting with an online guy among the online dating tips below. My previous posting (“Dating Over 50: What to Wear?”) talks a little more about date styling. It's pretty basic stuff. The over 50 woman going on a first date should wear something flattering and comfortable. Personally, I love the classic collared shirt (above) in white or a pastel color. It looks great, especially on women with nice legs. Pair it with a nice pair of jeans and you're good to go. Something feminine is also good. But too much cleavage may seem a little desperate. (I’m not sure too much cleavage after 50 is a good idea—ever.) Perhaps, something like this feminine ruffled blouse.
Dot Print Ruffle Blouse

Dot Print Ruffle Blouse


ONLINE DATING Do’s and Don’t’s
Don’t get discouraged by how many men our age don’t want to date women over 35. I say, “Thanks for letting me know up front that you’re one of those men.” Note: In researching this post, I came across a dating site called http://www.50plussinglesdating.com/ 50 Plus Singles Dating and was astonished to see four couples, three with women well under 50, pictured on the home page.

Do convey your personality in as few words as possible when completing your profile. I’m a writer and I know: words are easily misinterpreted. Avoid misunderstandings by writing simply and concisely. And make sure your tone is upbeat. Online dating may seem a little depressing and unromantic, but try to convey a positive outlook.

Do enlist the help of a trusted friend when filling out your profile. It’s sometimes hard to describe yourself in depth (some profiles are quite lengthy!). A good friend can help you list all your wonderful attributes, in the event you draw a blank or are hesitant to writing about yourself.

Don’t fall into the ‘passing emails’ trap. I had a friend who exchanged emails with a guy for a month before she meet him. Apparently, he was very witty in his emails and she had high hopes. They met at a bar for a glass of wine. It turned out he wasn’t her type physically and he wasn’t funny in person. She’d wasted a month on a dead end. If you see/read about someone that interests you, arrange to meet in person as soon as possible. You need to find out if there’s chemistry and that only happens in person.

Do plan to meet somewhere away from where you live. That way, you’re less likely to run into him again, if the first date is unsuccessful.

Do tell someone (a friend or sibling) where/when you’re meeting the guy and that you will call afterwards. It’s always good to err on the side of safety.

Don’t make a big deal out of the date. Your biological time clock has expired. You don’t have to worry about meeting Mr. Right—the man who will give you children and be a devoted husband and father. Enjoy the adventure; enjoy meeting new people. Here's an outfit (below) you might want to consider: A simple shell with a floral wrap. Color is always a good idea. A colorful scarf or wrap is upbeat without being too much.
Garden Floral Wrap, Ships 5/6

Garden Floral Wrap, Ships 5/6


Do plan, if possible, to go on several ‘first dates’ with different men at the same time. It’s best not to expect perfection the first time out. If one ‘first date’ is a dead end, you’ll appreciate having other ‘first dates’ to look forward to.

Do plan an activity for the second date. Simply going out to dinner on a second date puts a lot of pressure on the two of you to make conversation. Instead, go to a play, concert or art exhibit—something that can fuel the conversation. Afterwards, go for a bite to eat or a drink—you’ll have a lot more to talk about.

Good luck!

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Dating After 50: What to Wear?

Any day now, the warm sunshine will begin to coax people out of their winter hiding. What is it about warm temperatures, new grass, and flowers popping out that is so reinvigorating? I remember as a teenager getting the love bug every spring, feverish for a new romance. A good friend of mine, hardly a teeny-bop at age 51, is definitely feverish for a new romance these days. Her husband left her 2½ years ago and she’s ready to start dating. Last weekend, I helped her fill out her profile on one of those online dating sites. Already, she’s got men who are interested in meeting her. That’s got to feel good. Soon (I hope) she will be ready to start arranging “first dates” with a few of the men. She’s got decisions to make, including what to wear.

For this post, I've gathered a few tips on choosing a "first date" outfit as well as some fashions available online. Sorry about all the young babes. But there aren't many dress makers using older women as models...yet.

FIRST DATE STYLE DO's AND DON'Ts

Do plan your first date after sunset—that’s the best lighting for our mature complexions. A bar or café with candlelight is an excellent choice. It’s like a fog filter! Let the guy get to know you a little bit, soak in your many attributes, before you show yourself in the light of day.

Do choose a ‘first date’ outfit as soon as you complete your online dating profile. That way, when you start dating, you won’t drive yourself mad trying to decide what to wear. Where you go for the second date may vary, but the first date should always be an “easy in, easy out” location like a coffee shop, bar or café—someplace you can meet for an hour (or less) to see if there’s any chemistry.

Do wear an outfit that makes you look like a million bucks. Most men love it when women dress up a little for them. That may mean a nice top and slacks or a simple dress. Just make sure it’s something you feel comfortable in. Only you know what makes you feel gorgeous and confident. A wrap dress flatters just about every body shape. This Jones New York Rose Faux Wrap Dress, ($134), with its full skirt, is lovely and comfortable.


Jones New York Rose Faux Wrap Dress,






Or, perhaps, you feel most comfortable with a feminine top and a pair of slacks. I love this Michael Stars Slub 1x1 3/4 Sleeve Drape Neck Tee



Michael Stars Slub 1x1 3/4 Sleeve Drape Neck Tee





If you like a collar, but don't want to look corporate, a denim suit is a casual alternative.


Chambray-Shirt

Chambray-Shirt




Or the colorful cardigan with camisole is always reliable. Too blah? Try adding a pretty necklace.

Cashmere-Round-Neck-Cardigan

Cashmere-Round-Neck-Cardigan
($118.40) in 8 colors.



Do dress honestly. If you’re not looking to jump into bed right away, don’t wear something with a plunging neckline or that’s skintight on the first date. By the same token, if you aren’t a sweet and demure Donna Reed type, don’t wear a high-neck, calico dress with pearls. Try to give a true first impression.

Don’t wear something new for the first date. If you don't feel you have anything in your wardrobe, you might have to buy something new. But buy it and wear it a few times before the date to make sure it's comfortable and makes you feel gorgeous. Also, you don't want the outfit to only be associated with the first date. If the date goes poorly, the dress will have an unpleasant association.

Do go home and change, if your date is after work. You want to convey that you’re someone who loves life, who is fun to be around. Work clothes usually don’t convey that. A pretty dress will.


Don't think that first impressions won't count. There's no getting around: people form opinions based on how you look. Hopefully, your date will quickly put those first impressions aside as he learns about who you really are. But because of the oh so human behavior of judging based on appearance, you should think about what impression your outfit will give. For example, I don't think you should wear all black, show cleavage (that's always a no-no for over 50), or wear a big, loud print. All those things could potentially send a message other than the one you want to send.

You also don't want to wear something that draws attention to your little imperfection. You've got enough to think about on a first date. Personally, if I were planning to wear a sleeveless spring dress for a first date, I would wear a 3/4 sleeve shrug or sweater to cover up my over 50 arms. Or, perhaps, this Jones New York Long Sleeve Drape Front Cardigan (was $109, now $81.75) with soft ruffles.

Jones New York Long Sleeve Drape Front Cardigan



Good luck!

Friday, February 19, 2010

Fall 2010 Fashion Week


The Fall 2010 Fashion Week in New York City just wrapped up. Since I’ve made it my mission to find flattering styles for women over 50, I thought I’d take a sneak peek at what we’ll be seeing in the stores next fall. By and large, I don’t have occasion to wear runway designs. Most of them are like precious modern art—beautiful and provocative, but not exactly suited for office work or pizza night. (Case in point: the photos accompanying this post.) Also, it’s often hard for me to imagine myself in clothes worn by multi-story, toothpick girls. However, runway fashions do trickle down to designs for us mere mortals. And I’m happy to report that some of the fall designs will flatter the 50+ figure.

The designs I've posted here are fabulous, but awfully formal. If you'd like to see less formal wear,you can go to:
The official Mercedes Benz Fashion Week site http://mbfashionweek.com/newyork/
Or…

The New York Times http://www.nytimes.com/pages/fashion/index.html
The Times has a lot of fun stuff to look at like...

Fall 2010 trends at:
http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2009/09/09/fashion/TRENDSPOTTING_FW.html




Click on "See All Collections" to view designer collections. My favorites:
Ralph Lauren
http://www.nytimes.com/packages/html/style/fashionweek/runway.html?ref=fashion#/fall_2010_lauren_ralph/slide_show
My husband doesn’t like Ralph Lauren’s clothing. “Ralph Lauren just steals from past styles,” he grumbles. If you look at RL’s fall 2010 collection, you might just agree with my hubby. The Times calls it “dark romance and Edwardian era.” The thing is, I like romantic and Edwardian (sans the tassel caps). At my age, flowing printed skirts and dark velvet jackets suit me better than the form-fitting mini-skirts and plunging necklines in, say, the Halston collection. And I’m confident that the Ralph Lauren designs will look good on women with a little more meat on their bones than the runway models. Personally, when it comes to fashion styles for women over 50, I’ll take derivative over cutting-edge vamp any day. And in response to my husband’s criticism of Ralph Lauren, I offer my favorite T.S. Elliot quote: “Good poets borrow. Great poets steal.”

Oscar de La Renta
http://www.nytimes.com/packages/html/style/fashionweek/runway.html?ref=fashion#/fall_10_de_la_renta/slide_show
I like many of this collection’s pieces, though not the ones with fur trim. I get hot flashes just looking at those images. On the other hand, Photo #8 makes me think of Catherine Deneuve, who is high on my list of older women fashion icons. Other favorites: #13-17

And, finally, if you’re depressed these days because your aging feet won’t allow you to wear high heels anymore, check out this CNN video: http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/offbeat/2010/02/16/moos.fashion.falls.cnn?iref=allsearch


Photo credit: J.T White shot these photos at the Fall 2010 Fashion Week for Patrick McMullen Company.
http://www.patrickmcmullen.com/site/index.aspx
http://johntwhite.carbonmade.com/

Snip, snip here. Snip, snip there

Jon Stewart is the cat’s meow! There, I’ve said it. I’ve been a diehard Daily Show fan for years and I finally went to a taping on Thursday night. What great fun! Before the show started, Stewart came out and fielded questions from the audience. The questions ranged from mildly serious political inquires to whether or not he has tattoos (he doesn’t). He said, “Aging is tattoo enough for me.” Amen, Brother Jon. One young woman asked: “If you were an animal, what animal would you be?” Without skipping a beat, Stewart asked the woman, “Do you have special powers? Because if you do and plan to turn me into that animal right now, before the show starts, well, I’d like to know.” Fortunately, the woman didn’t have special powers to use on Stewart (he’s adorable just as he is). Stewart’s answer: A polar bear with otter flippers. I guess a polar bear without special flippers would be too ho-hum. And certainly, there’s nothing ho-hum about my favorite fake news anchor. What does Jon Stewart and the Daily Show have to do with flattering the over 50 woman? Well, the show's taping was where this 50+ woman debuted her new haircut.

Yes, I can check ‘get a new hairstyle’ off my list of things to do in preparation for job hunting. On Tuesday, I went to a local salon, armed with Internet photos. “Don’t look at how beautiful the models are,” I instructed my hairdresser. “Just tell me if you think any of these ‘dos’ will do.” I wanted her to help me pick the best cut for my face’s shape and my hair’s texture. None of the hairstyles, by the way, were very radical. At appointment time, my hair was long, just below my shoulders (see ‘before’ illustration). It was thick and straight, sort of Janis Joplin style—not a flattering look for a 50+ woman. But I wasn’t about to ask for anything drastic, like a Twiggy cut (which I did in 1970!). My daring “take it off, take it all off” days are definitely behind me—at least for now.

After a brief hairdresser-client consultation, my hairdresser started snipping. She cut the longest ends to my shoulders and added lots of layers, some quite short. “The cut will make your hair lighter and more stylish,” she told me. I was concerned about adding “lots of layers.” I had read that layers accentuate the older woman’s frazzled, post-menopausal, over-processed locks. My hairdresser insisted that the short layers were going to be good for my hair. “I’m going to cut off all those dry ends,” she said.

So I put my hair in her hands. She used a photo of gorgeous Deborah Norville as her styling guide. The photo was from http://www.beautifulhairstyles.com/mature/. I’d seen a similar haircut described as a good choice for the woman with a square jaw or jowls—neither of which Deborah suffers from. I, on the other hand, have both annoying facial features. I’d also read that adding short layers to a long hairstyle was like giving your face a facelift. I like that idea, even if it is complete fantasy. My hairdresser said she would leave my hair a little longer than the photo of Deborah this time. If I wanted, I could always have more taken off next time. That was fine with me.

I’m happy to report my new haircut is just what I wanted (see the ‘after’drawing). The short layers, particularly the ones that swish around my jaw, offer a little camouflage for my 50+ jowls.

If you’re thinking about redoing your do, you might want to consider the following “Hair-Dos and Don’ts.” It’s all common sense stuff. But then, a haircut isn’t brain surgery.

HAIR-DOs & DON’Ts...
DO go to a hairstylist who has a good reputation. If you really want a new do, you may have to go to someone new. Look at the cuts on your friends and acquaintances. Find out where they go. Don’t be afraid to ask a complete stranger in the supermarket where she got her great cut. She’ll be flattered.

DO go to a hairstylist who understands the concerns of the 50+ woman. My current hairstylist is a forty-something woman who understands the older woman’s changing hair texture, complexion, attitude and even body shape. Plus, I always like what she does with her other older clients.

DO take a photo (or a few) with you to the salon. Generally speaking, I find people, hairstylists included, aren’t very good at visualizing. They do much better if they have a picture to look at while you’re telling them what you like/don’t like.

DON’T make too many requests. For years, I told hairdressers, “Do what you think is best. But I have one request: I need my hair long enough to allow me to pull it back in a barrette sometimes.” Guess what? That one caveat has been the reason my hair has looked more or less the same for 10 years. This time I kept my mouth shut and finally got something a little different.

DO ask for something that is within your styling abilities. My styling abilities are limited, but I told my hairdresser I was willing to learn. She said I could learn with my new do. I’ve washed my hair twice since I got it cut and I’m still fussing, trying to get it to look good. I know I’ll never recreate the effect of a professional blowout, but I hope I can learn how to give some of the layers a swish here and there.

Don’t be afraid. Trust your hairdresser. It’s the only way you’ll walk out with something really new. If you’ve chosen an experienced hairdresser, s/he should be able to give you the cut in the photo you’ve chosen. If the hairdresser senses your apprehension, however, s/he may not give you the best haircut or the cut in the photo, but rather the one s/he thinks you can live with.

Do ask for a little light hair spray. Well, do consider it, especially if you get a medium or long cut. Light hair spray isn’t like the stuff our mothers’ used. It just gives enough hold to keep your professional blowout looking nice for a few days.

MORE TIPS ON CHANGING YOUR HAIRSTYLE...
Associated Content
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/247435/how_to_get_the_haircut_you_really_want.html?cat=69
Check out tip #4 about choosing your appointment time.

Beautyriot
http://www.beautyriot.com/article.php?id=1744
I agree with tip #1. I’ve often thought, “Maybe I’ll find a new style while I’m waiting for my hair dye to set. It’s never happened. As for tip #8, note-taking sounds like a good idea. But I wish I could take a video camera to my appointments. :)

Ladies’ Home Journal
http://www.lhj.com/style/hair/advice/get-a-great-haircut/
Tip #1 has validity, I think. Hairdressers have always told me to sit up straight. I guess I tend to cower when I’m placed in front of a huge mirror. :)
Tip #8 (p. 2) about coloring your hair after its cut is interesting. I’ve never heard that before. It seems a little excessive, but I really don’t know.

Epigee
http://www.epigee.org/beauty/haircut.html

Saturday, January 30, 2010

Hair-um

When every other ad on television is about joining a gym, starting a weight loss program or finding incentive to quit smoking, you know it’s the first month of the new year. I admit I’m no stranger to setting goals at this time of year. My 2010 resolution: To find a new job. Gulp.

As a 50+ woman with, shall we say, a dubious career history, I realize finding a new job may be my all-time toughest resolution to achieve. The last time I looked for a full-time job, I was in my 30s. All I needed to do then was look and act professional. Twenty years later, that's not enough. The job hunting, 50+ woman needs to looks and acts professional and current. She’s got to have a professional narrative that shows she’s aware of current trends and technology, and she has to look like she has the energy (at such an old age) to keep up with what’s next. Appearance isn’t everything, but she’ll want her hair, outfit, and accessories to make a good impression. Last month, I went for a makeup consultation at Sephora (see earlier posting) to brighten up my 50+ complexion and hide a few flaws. This month, I’m looking for a new hairstyle. The question is: Which hairstyles are most flattering for the 50+ face?

Short of losing weight, I can’t think of too many things that can alter your appearance (for better or worse) more than a new haircut. Have you seen the Jane Austen Book Club? I recently rented the DVD and was astonished by the transformation Bernadette (a fiftysomething character played by Kathy Baker) makes simply by changing her hairstyle. For most of the movie, Bernadette has a very short, spiky hairdo. The hairstyle makes her look like an average looking, middle-age woman. It actually accentuates her nose. However, at the end of the movie, Bernadette shows up at a dinner-dance with a sexy, sweeping hairdo that flips just below her chin. (You can see a ‘before’ photo of Bernadette under a paper parasol in the 4th row and ‘after’ photo of Bernadette dancing with her new beau in the 2nd row of photos at http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0866437/mediaindex) Yes, she’s wearing make up and has a new beau. But the soft, sexy hairdo is the biggest factor in her transformation. I want that kind of transformation!

But here’s the thing: Has any woman ever found a hairdresser who will suggest a new hairstyle? I haven’t. If I go to the salon with an idea, my current hairdresser will work with me. But she won’t say, “I think you should let me cut your hair this way or that way.” (Ditto for all the hairdressers I’ve used.) Is she afraid I will hate her if I don’t like the cut? This has always struck me as rather insane, since she’s supposed to be the hair expert, not me. Whatever the reason, it’s my job to come in with an idea or better still, a photograph of a desired hairstyle.

Fortunately, there are many online hairstyle resources for 50+ women. Moreover, older women have more hairstyle options than ever before. When I turned 40 with long hair, my mother warned me: “You know, older woman with long hair look like hags.” With each subsequent birthday, I asked myself: “Do I look like a hag yet?” I always assumed the day would come when I would feel compelled to shear my locks to within an inch of my scalp. And yet, I kept seeing older woman who looked great in long hair—Meryl Streep, Holly Hunter, Rene Russo, to name a few. Apparently, the hair barriers have fallen thanks to better styling of long hair for older woman.

This doesn’t mean that “anything goes” when picking a new hairstyle. The over 50 woman must still find the right do—a hairstyle that flatters her:
Face’s Shape
Hair’s Character (ie, texture, thickness)
Body Shape
Personality/Lifestyle


You may find a hairstyle that suits your face and body shapes, but may not cooperate with your hair’s character or may be too fussy for your lifestyle. Long, flowing locks may look fabulous on gorgeous, statuesque Meryl Streep, but I doubt they would suit diminutive Judi Dench. Judi looks stunning in her boyish cut, but can you imagine Andy McDowell with something so severe? If, like me, you can’t expect your hairdresser to lead you to the perfect cut, you’ll have to do the research yourself. There are lots of online hair websites,including a few that show hairstyles that camouflage 50+ flaws. Here are a few sites that might help:

Oprah.com
http://www.oprah.com/style/The-Right-Cut-for-Your-Face
The right cut for your face. The first and the last slides are my personal favorites.

Visual Makeover.com
http://www.visual-makeover.com/face.htm
How to determine your face shape and hairstyles to try/avoid.

Hairfinders.com
How to Determine Your Face Shape http://www.hairfinder.com/tips/faceshape.htm
How to Match Your Hairstyle and Body Type
http://www.hairfinder.com/tips/body_type_hairstyle.htm
Dealing with Specific Facial Features http://www.hairfinder.com/tips/facialfeatures.htm

Hairfinders.com
http://www.hairfinder.com/hair_imaging.htm
A one-time $14.95 membership lets you upload a picture of yourself and “try on” different hairstyles.

Hairdo/Hairstyle
Here are 4 great haircuts, though the models for 3 cuts aren’t even close to 50. Still, I think they would suit the 50+ woman.
http://www.hairdohairstyles.com/Hairstyle_News/Over_50_Hairstyles.html

BellaOnline
http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art35370.asp
Don’t be turned off by the very first illustration (which looks like a bathing cap my mom wore in the early 1960s). There are some good tips here.

Beautiful Hairstyles
http://www.beautifulhairstyles.com/mature/over50/
Haircuts on real 50+ woman, albeit gorgeous celebrities.

Love to Know Seniors
http://seniors.lovetoknow.com/Over_50_Hairstyles
If you’re set on a short hairstyle, check out this site. Scroll down for a slide show of short haircuts modeled by non-celebrity over 50 women.

About.com: Beauty
http://beauty.about.com/od/hairstylingtipstricks/ss/over50hair.htm
More 50+ celebrity haircuts

Good luck!

Sunday, January 17, 2010

The Better Sweater

This probably isn’t the best time to be writing about sweaters, even though the New York area has been in a deep freeze since the start of 2010. If I were a true fashion aficionado, I’d probably be writing about bathing suits and the new dresses for spring 2010. But it’s freezing out and I’m walking around with one, if not two, sweaters on. Plus, my sister got a new sweater for Christmas that makes her look 10 years younger. Sweaters are on my mind.

The day after New Year’s day, my older sister turned up at a family party wearing a new, stylish, long cable-knit, hooded cardigan in off-white. She wore the new sweater with a teal blue cotton top and three strands of flat teal blue beads. I nearly gasped.

Why? Well, you have to know my sister. She’s an oncology nurse educator at a large, teaching hospital and she works a zillion and one-half hours per week. When she’s not working, she’s give, give, giving to her husband and two kids. She’s never found time for fashion. For the past 25 years, her wardrobe has consisted largely of mommy-wear—wash ‘n dash turtlenecks, jeans and sweatshirts. At any given Christmas-New Year holiday gatherings, you could count on her to show up in a boxy cardigan with seasonal trimmings (knitted or applique snowflakes, fir trees and reindeers) and a dirndl skirt—her idea of festive fashion (see my “Before” drawing). The combination of the short, boxy sweater and the gathered, full skirt has always made her look ten pounds heavier. And the absence of style, well, made her look a lot like American Gothic lady. (Sorry, sis.) But the other week, my sister took 10 years off her appearance by wearing a new, stylish sweater (see the “After” drawing) she’d gotten for Christmas.

WHY THE OUTFIT WORKS:
1) Perfect style and fit for her shape. My sister is only 5’3’’ and a little over her ideal weight. I would have thought the off-white, form-fitting cardigan would make her look shorter and heavier. But the sweater’s extended line, from her shoulders to mid-thighs, actually makes her look slimmer.
2) Perfect Colors. My sister looks best in “autumn colors,” including off-white and teal blue. The colors brighten her complexion.
3) Upbeat style. The hoodie style projects youthful energy (as does the strands of beads).

Last year, I bought a Michael Kors velour, zip-up hoodie. At the time, I fretted: Am I too old for hoodies? After seeing my sister in her new hooded cardigan, I’m convinced: Hoodies are perfect for the 50+ wardrobe. They project a sense of fun and energy and even a positive attitude—all the things that make any woman attractive.

If I were making a list of things to look for when shopping for a sweater that will shave years off your appearance, I would add to the above list:
4) Details. A sweater with a little personality can take years off. (Note: I’m not talking about applique reindeers here.) Things like ruffles, special cable knits or unusual closures can grab attention and divert it away from those 50+ flaws.

SWEATER SITES
J. Crew
http://www.jcrew.com/index.jsp
My two favorite designs:
Merino ruffle cardigan
Strada ruffle cardigan

Jones New York
http://www.jny.com/Sweaters/22962157,default,sc.html
JNY has lots of sweaters on sale right now. Great variety of styles and colors!

Nordstrom
http://shop.nordstrom.com
Search ‘Sweater Shop'for a huge collection—something for everyone. Check out:
Caslon® Mix Print Drawstring Cardigan
Eileen Fisher Open Organic Cotton Cardigan